Managing Children's Behaviour

This guide is to give you information on our behaviour policy & procedures which have been put together using the ‘ABCC’ Behaviour as you like it and what to do when things go wrong’ booklets produced by Surrey County Council as well as advice and knowledge given by the Early Years and Childcare Service Professionals.

Why do Children Misbehave?

Why do Children Misbehave?

Children misbehave because they have not yet learnt how to react to feelings and needs in acceptable ways.

The most common needs and feelings that can trigger unacceptable behaviour are -  


Attention, Boredom, Curiosity, Imitation,

Self- preservation, Independence,

 Anger, Frustration, Anxiety, Fear,

 Excitement, Anticipation



  • Behaviour is learnt

  • Behaviour can change

  • Rewards work better than punishments

  • Practice makes perfect

  • Consistency is the key

  • Never assume that a child misbehaves intentionally.


Our children are very young and may not have learnt what appropriate behaviour is yet. Children need to know what we want them to do and it is important that we tell them what we want them to do rather than what we don't want them to do. The behaviour will be repeated if the underlying children's needs remain unmet.

Our 10 Golden Rules

We implement these golden rules every day with children of all ages

1) Building children's 6 'C

These are the 6 key characteristics that we are aiming to develop which underpin good behaviour


  • Confidence

  • Communication

  • Cooperation

  • Curiosity    

  • Concentration

  • Caring

2) Promote Positive Behaviour

For children to co-operate with routines and expected behaviour we need to promote good behaviour by:


  • Being a good role model

  • Giving lots of praise

  • Being consistent

  • Distract them

  • Catch them being good

  • Give reminders

  • Plan ahead

  • Swap bad news for good

  • Positive body language

  • Have clear boundaries

Want to know more? The full guide is available from your local nursery.